Tap-And-Bitch for Nurses: End Of Shift STRESS Relief…

The world is a different place than it was before 2020.  Nursing was stressful enough before all of the extra precautions became necessary.  While there was always some concern about catching whatever “bug” it was that the patient had, now it is often top-of-mind as are the precautions which must be taken.

You became a nurse because you want to help people.  I’ve heard it say that while the Doctors are diagnosing, the nurses are the ones caring for the patients.  You chose this profession because you care, not just for and about your patients, but your family and community as well. 

Back in December of 2020 I ran across a study published out of Turkey.  The study described using online deliver of EFT Tapping to help COVID-19 Care Nurses reduce the impact of Stress, Anxiety, and Burnout.  You can download the pdf here: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.explore.2020.11.012

The two most important take-aways are:

  • Online access-based emotional freedom technique positively affected the stress and anxiety of nurses who care for COVID-19 patients.
  • Online access-based emotional freedom technique positively affected burnout for nurses who care for COVID-19 patients.

I’ve been wanting to put together a program specifically to help Nurses reduce their Stress, Anxiety, and Burnout symptoms ever since I found out about that study.  I even contacted one of the authors who was kind enough to answer some of my questions about the study. 

Below you will find a Tap-Along video that I made in my car specifically for Nurses.  The idea is to use this at the end of your shift, BEFORE you head home (or even leave the parking lot!)

Simply Tap-Along with this video and reduce your stress level by eliminating some of the stuck, emotional charge from the day.  As your watching it the first time, be sure to note the time code where I start Tapping, so you can fast-forward to that point the next time you Tap-Along with the video before going home.

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I’m REALLY looking forward to hearing what you think about this video!

  • Was it useful in reducing the stress you feel in your body?  
  • After Tapping-Along with it do you notice a lower mental stress level?
  • After Tapping do you notice some additional resilience available to you? 

PLEASE leave a comment below and let me know!  Oh, and if you have a suggestion for at Tap-Along topic that you’d like to see addressed, please put that in the comments as well.  Thanks!

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Eliminate Imposter Syndrome – Part 2

In the previous segment we started exploring how to eliminate Imposter Syndrome.  

One of the more common symptoms is the “fear of being found out” as a fake, an impostor, or worse yet, incompetent which could lead to disgrace and dismissal. 

In our “imposter mind” this discovery would be followed by a long fall from our current level of stature into the abyss of being ignored as irrelevant.  It would also believe that NOTHING we ever did again would be good enough to redeem us.

That’s quite a graphic and stomach-churning description for someone with Imposter Syndrome.

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I like to focus on discovery and elimination of the root causes of distorted, or maladaptive thinking like that.  Looking through the lens of “all behavior has a positive intent” and knowing that this positive intent is most often to “stay safe” some possibilities start to emerge.  I’ll talk more about them in the video. 

Be sure to Tap along with me so you can take another step on your journey of healing from imposter syndrome!

 

Yesterday I suggested that you  watch the EFT Quick Start Video Learning System here

Today I’m going to recommend you download and print out the EFT Tapping Points Cheat Sheet here.

As I said in the video, I look forward to reading the comments you leave below!

Eliminate Imposter Syndrome – Part 1

Common characteristics of Imposter Syndrome.  

How many of these do you recognize within yourself?

  • Self-doubt, especially fear that you won’t live up to expectations
  • Denial of your skills and competence, or the inability to realistically assess them
  • Responding to those praising your skills and accomplishments with phrases like, “I’m nothing special. Anyone could do this!
  • Attributing external factors or “luck” as the reason for your (apparent!) success
  • Denial of your successes, often by minimizing your performance or outcomes
  • Fear that you will be “found out to be a fraud” and that revelation will destroy you
  • Applying excessive amounts of energy toward over-achievement because if you produce enough great results, they won’t notice you have no idea what you’re doing.
  • Setting extremely high expectations for yourself and doing everything you can to achieve those goals all the while anticipating you will fail miserably because you’re really not as competent as you appear.
  • Starting to sabotage your own success as you come closer and closer to achieving success because you’re afraid they’ll find out you’re a fraud once you achieve the goal, and that would be humiliating.

Here’s one woman’s description of her experience that I found in the comments over at impostorsyndrome.com.

I stumbled on the term “Impostor Syndrome” when reading the bio of a well known female representative from New York.  …  I decided to look up the term and discovered I had stumbled on the name of something that has plagued me all my 45 years.

I’m constantly seeking validation from others and always doubt my abilities despite my achievements, to the consternation of my husband and close family.

I’ve worked for the same organization for 20 years, rising to a seat on the board and I’m considering moving on because my mind is dead here. But I’m terrified of moving in case someone finds out I’m not as good as my experience shows I am. I had to create a resume for the first time in 15 years and as terrifying as it was, I was shocked to see all I had achieved. But it didn’t stop me from feeling like a fraud.

Imposter syndrome is very common.  In their 2011 publication, The Imposter Phenomenon, Sakulku and Alexander indicated that it is estimated that 70% of people will experience at least one episode of imposter syndrome in their lives.

Your biggest take-away from this should be that you’re not alone!  While that may not “solve the problem” right now, knowing that most others will face it at one time or another also, could make it easier to start talking about with others.  Normalizing a “problem” is the first step to starting to explore it so you can understand it and begin to address it.

In tomorrows post I’ll be digging in to Imposter Syndrome more deeply and getting us ready to start addressing it with EFT Tapping.

The best thing you can do right now to prepare yourself for the Imposter Syndrome breakthrough is to watch the EFT Quick Start Video Learning System here.

Ref:
Sakulku J, Alexander J. The imposter phenomenonInternational Journal of Behavioral Science. 2011;6(1):73-92

5 years and 10 months later…

The last time I added any content to TapAndBitch.com was almost 6 years ago.  A lot has changed since then!  

In addition to a relationship coming and going I went back to school and earned my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health!

Part of what drove me was the knowledge and experience I’d built up over the previous decade an a half working both with clients and on myself.  

Another part of it was the joy I get at the end of a client session right after we finish the Tapping.  There is a look of bewilderment sometimes. “Where did it go?!?!” is telegraphing across their face if this is their firs “real” encounter with Tapping.

I was incredibly fortunate to land both my practicum and internships in the on-campus counseling center.  The director, a wonderful woman named Liz Tomlin, could see the potential within me, and gave me a chance to join her team.  I will forever be indebted to her for that gift!

Fast forward through graduation, some twists and turns, and a bit more than a year working for a local community mental health non-profit, and I was ready to start my very own private practice.  Then the pandemic hit and the world’s plans went sideways.  

More twists and turns, and a whole lot of work getting my house ready to sell, and I’ve ended up here.

Where is here? Part of Russell Brunson’s Two Comma Club X program, and the reason for this post and video.

Today is the first day of a
“21-day Publishing Challenge!”

I’ve decided to participate, even though I’m way behind the “planned” schedule for consuming the teaching content and implementing what we’re learning right now to build the infrastructure that will lead to a SOLID foundation for the business that I’m building. 

Unlike last time, back when TapAndBitch.com was born, I’m not left to flounder about and figure out how to build a real business based on the internet.  

THIS time, I can draw upon Russell’s wisdom as he is teaching, the coaching we have access to every week, the “Hackathons” and Q&A sessions, as well as a very lively and active Facebook group we can collaborate with as well.

For this first video…

I decided to do a Tap-And-Bitch Tapping session focused on what I was feeling as I was facing making this first published video in almost 6 years! 

As you watch it, you’ll notice two, very distinct times when I let out a breath and visibly relax, which is a physiological indicator of Tapping having it’s desired stress relieving effect!

I would encourage you to…

Tap along as you watch this video…

so that you can Borrow The Benefits of the work I’m doing, and benefit from it yourself as well.

 

 

Oh, and my plans for the next video and post are to focus on reducing (or eliminating) feelings of “Imposter Syndrome!”  Be sure to check back daily
for the next 21 days at least, and catch the latest episode here at TapAndBitch.com!

Tapping after a fight with a friend or loved one

Confused and betrayed!  That’s how I felt the last time I had a fight with my (ex) girlfriend.  We had been so close and in love.  But over time we had drifted apart.  (Or perhaps we had grown apart as we each grew into stepping onto our new path as we each did our own inner work.)  Things didn’t mesh like they used to.  There was tension in the household as expectations (both voiced and unvoiced) did not get met. Eventually it just blew. 

There was a comment that started it…that lit the fuse. There actually was a space between when the fuse was lit and when the explosion occurred.  It was that moment of confusion, and disbelief…when your mind goes from realizing what was said…to “but you love me – how could you say THAT?!?!”  But, unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there.  It rolls right on to, “Oh, hell no! I’m not going to let THAT go unanswered!” and you watch as the spark disappears into the powder keg right before it blows.  You know what’s next.  You wish it weren’t the case…and then it happens.  The words just flow…the rational brain is no longer engaged…and those hurtful words just flow.  The ones that you would never consciously say from that place of calm, centered, rationality.  But you are no longer there. You’ve been triggered and you respond to being hurt…or retaliate!

At one time or another, we’ve all been there, done that (on BOTH sides) and have no desire what-so-ever for the T-Shirt!  But what do you do about it now?  In the aftermath… when you find yourself wandering in that minefield of hurt feelings and broken dreams.

You can try to say “you are sorry” but somehow, “sorry” just doesn’t cut it.  You can try to explain, but it’s likely to fall on deaf ears.  The damage is done.

So now what? Continue reading

Tap-Along Video – Tapping After A Fight With A Friend Or Loved One

Sometimes disagreements with friends or loved ones get out of hand and escalate into full blow fights or shouting matches.  Once the damage is done, it is sometimes difficult to reconnect and reengage in the relationship.  Not only are all of the things we’ve said and done during the fight still hanging in the air between us – but the embarrassment about our behavior during the fight still echos in our mind.

While it might take some time to attempt to repair the damage done to the relationship, if it can be salvaged at all, the best first step is to do some tapping and release the emotional upset around it.

Here is a Tap-Along video I made for you that shows how I would start to address a situation like this…

In this case especially, there is likely much more tapping to be done to really get through it.  Invest the time in yourself (even if you think you’re done with the relationship!) and release even more of the emotional upset by Continue reading